Friday, October 30, 2015
When I learned through the newspaper of a controversy involving someone I know, I sent an email note of support and condolence to her adult child (I didn't know her email) And corresponded back and forth a little.
Truly, it's not my business but she is my friend. And that is enough. I can be her friend regardless of the truth of the allegation. And I can grieve with her family for the pain they are all going through.
In a separate incident, I met with some friends yesterday. And the newspaper article came up. And was fodder for jokes and comments.
I kept quiet.
No one there knew that I knew either party.
And some of them knew both - apparently well.
But I am bothered that I kept quiet while the gossip rolled over me. I usually do. Keep quiet that is.... when it's gossip. I did make some non-committal comment about nobody being perfect.... and try to change the topic.
and that is the truth. No one is perfect.
I mean... who has walked in another's shoes?
Who's to say that I could not have been embroiled in the same situation? Who's to say that I might have made bad choices? Or been crucified by public opinion - if I had put myself in the public eye.
But I am sad for the families. I am sad for the pain.
I am sad for the people who think that another's pain is funny.
And I am still conflicted about how I should have behaved. Somehow I feel by my very presence that I am tainted.
What do YOU do when gossip rolls around you?