Planning a party is not my gift
I used to love to throw parties
but have been surrounded for too long by people who either
a) hate parties
b) have such high expectations that I lose confidence
I mean - to me
a party is simply a chance to get together
coffee.... lunch..... friendship
That's it - so I don't appreciate the stress of providing the perfect appetizer or party favor. My standards are very low. More people = more food.. that's it.
Anyway - a friend is throwing a shower for another friend. And it is a big stressor for her. I offered to help
BUT I'm not stressing over a cupcake.
It isn't happening. I'm not going to get caught up in it.
So I already know that whatever I cook or make or whatever... will not stand up to Pinterest expectations... so I'm not going there.
I decided that the best thing for me to give is TIME (I will be the worker bee on the day of the shower)
X dollars (over what I already said I'd buy).
I told her I hadn't reached my budget number yet... so I sent her the difference.
In a check.
So she can do what she needs to do to feel that she did it right.
And I will be there early the day of... to do whatever she needs to have done.
(I'm helping my friends even though I do not (choose not to) understand the issue)